A review for His Needs, Her Needs: Making Romantic Love Last

If you ask me what is a good recommendation for a book to revisit the foundation for a relationship well this book: His Needs, Her Needs: Making Romantic Love Last might be the one for you.

Dr. Harley identifies ten fundamental emotional needs in relationships, five typically associated with men and five with women, though he clarifies these needs can vary individually. The book emphasizes that when each partner prioritizes understanding and fulfilling the other's most significant needs, it fosters a deeper bond and prevents common pitfalls that often lead to infidelity and dissatisfaction.

The primary needs Dr. Harley discusses include affection, sexual fulfillment, intimate conversation, recreational companionship, honesty, admiration, family commitment, and financial support. For instance, he highlights how one partner may need appreciation and admiration to feel valued, while another might prioritize quality time or affectionate gestures.

As a therapist who has been working with many different couples, I very often lose track of these fundamental principles, and very often when they start to realize it and start to focus on the foundations of their relationship there are usually improvements shown.