A Guide to Assertive Communication Skills

Understanding Assertive Communication

Assertive communication skills are essential in our daily interactions. They empower us to express our thoughts, feelings, and needs openly and honestly, while respecting others. This guide will delve into the importance of assertive communication, particularly in situations where saying 'no' is necessary, and how to structure your responses effectively.

The Power of Saying No

Many of us struggle with the ability to say 'no' when faced with requests from friends, family, or colleagues. However, mastering assertive communication can provide the tools needed to handle such requests gracefully. For instance, when someone asks for your help but your schedule is already packed, you can respond assertively. Instead of feeling guilty or overwhelmed, you can say: I would love to help you but i have few important priority needs to be taking care of. I will help you when i am finished with my priorities.

Problem Solving Through Assertiveness

The way to use assertive communication to solve problem or expressive yourself, you can youse the following format.

Start with

I feel:___________

the next is Because________

the last is I think it will help or I would like to_________

as you can see when you start the sentence with with I feel people are more like to listen and the because helps you explain what makes feel and the last part is offering solutions and if the other party agrees with your solution than problem solved. If not hopefully the conversation will stay on solution talk.

Normally we are used to finger pointing such as why you do that, you are wrong, or you always to that etc. when the other person who received the finger pointing usually will start defend themself such as what do you mean I am wrong, maybe you are wrong. This is the reason why the endless arguments starts and never goes any where.